It's time to...
Live with purpose.
Rediscover who you want to be and what excites you.
Do more of what you love and nurture your individuality.
Be present and consistent with this practice.
Food for thought
This is a quick message to say hello. Follow up on your project and share some thoughts on finding time when there is no time.
And... some more additional food for thought from Brene Brown.
Brene Brown's thoughts on perfectionism:
“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
Perfectionism is defeating and self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal. Additionally, perfectionism is more about perception – we want to be perceived as perfect. Again, this is unattainable – there is no way to control perception, regardless of how much time and energy we spend trying.
Perfectionism is addictive because when we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it’s because we weren’t perfect enough so rather than questioning the faulty logic of perfectionism, we become even more entrenched in our quest to live, look, and do everything just right.
Feeling shamed, judged, and blamed (and the fear of these feelings) are realities of the human experience. Perfectionism actually increases the odds that we’ll experience these painful emotions and often leads to self-blame: ‘It’s my fault. I’m feeling this way because I’m not good enough.’
To overcome perfectionism we need to be able to acknowledge our vulnerabilities to the universal experiences of shame, judgment, and blame; develop shame resilience; and practice self-compassion.
When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves and we begin to practice shame resilience, we can embrace our imperfections. It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts and strengthen our most meaningful connections.” B. Brown (2009).
From - Brene Brown: Perfectionism and claiming shame.
Meet the right kind of people
Here are a few groups and networks where hopefully you'll be able to meet some like minded women (people), feel inspired, learn and grow in the direction you want.
GOAL setting and planning for success
Here are a couple of resources to help you through your goal setting and planning phase.
MAKING YOUR GOALS HAPPEN
Before you start remember to take 10mins to write exactly why you want to reach these goals. It is the WHY that will inspire you to go for them and keep you going even when things don't go to plan.
Have a read of this article - the advice here is simple and doable. And I love the "apple a day analogy". Read it and after that think when it comes to your work what is the one thing you can do every day (your apple a day) to get closer to these goals?
Getting clear on what really matters
Below is a downloadable PDF version of the grid we used in our last session. By clicking on the image below you should be able to download it and use it. Hopefully it will bring you clarity of purpose and keep you heading in the right (more meaningful) direction.
Visualising the goal and the process
To help you really achieve what matters - I have included below two interesting concepts for you to consider. First, an invitation to visualise your goal - to really see it (this is a TED talk - lasts 10mins).
Second, an invitation to visualise the process that will get you there (article by Jonathan Fields - 5 min read).
SEE IT • BELIEVE IT • ACT ON IT
VISUALISE THE STEPS THAT WILL GET YOU THERE
Click on the image below to be go to Jonathan Fields article on how to do this. It's a super interesting read.
RE-DISCOVERING WHO YOU ARE
The Take time to BE YOU promise
To motivate and inspire you into action.
To walk with you in your journey of self-discovery and greater action.
To keep you accountable.
To share resources, tips and opportunities with you that will help you along the way.
To connect you with the relevant people and networks that will support you in this process.
Please take a minute to let me know your thoughts on the Take time to BE YOU sessions, whether these met your hopes and expectations and what your biggest take-aways were. Also please do let me know if you have any suggestions on how I can improve the sessions to make them more meaningful and effective.
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